Review of Relevant Literature

Numerous experts invest much time and effort in furthering their knowledge on the Enneagram and its practices. Among them is the well-known Helen Palmer. Palmer is a teacher of intuition and psychology, as well as a published author, and a founding director of the International Enneagram Association (Allgaier). Renowned Christian author Richard Rohr stated, “Helen Palmer teaches the Enneagram with an in-depth and clinical clarity that can only help and strengthen those who are seeking to use it for spiritual direction, Christian guidance, or even the classic “reading of souls” (Helen). Her repertoire includes five best-selling books in the human consciousness sector. However, Palmer does much more than just write books. In fact, she tours around the world to train people toward more self-awareness. This past fall of 2014, my mother and I actually had the fortune to participate in one of Palmer’s many conferences in a near-by Cincinnati location.

Another instrumental researcher key to the growth of the Enneagram is David Daniels, a clinical professor of psychoanalysis and behavioral sciences at Stanford Medical School (Allgaier). Doctor Daniels has been in private practice for the last forty years and continues to learn more about himself and his surroundings daily. Daniels states, “It is my hope that the Enneagram system will become part of definitive psychological and spiritual research, will reach out into the world to help resolve conflict and aid collaboration, and will help us all move forward on the path to wholeness both individually and collectively” (Daniels). Moreover, it is understandable that some of the top scholars in this field would be psychologists who devote their time to relationships, mental health education, and human development.


Is one particular type more compatible with another?

“Understanding is the key to having compatible, fulfilling relationships—this includes both understanding others and yourself.”

-The Enneagram Institute

I know you’re all thinking it. Now that you know your own ‘type’ you are curious as to which number your life-long partner will be. What number would create the best, most healthy relationship? Which other type will work best with me– in my family life, friendships, and workplace environment? There’s good and bad news… the Enneagram does not specifically name the type that is most compatible to you. Everyone has different values in the way they live their life, and people want different things out of a relationship. However, that is not to say that a quiet observer (5) would not be with an outgoing asserter (8). They could very well enjoy a long life together. In fact, relationships work best when your companion supports you in your weaknesses and even compliments them with their own personality. Perhaps you struggle with autonomy, like an 8, while you’re spouse battles with seeking intimacy, as many 2’s do. This friendship could result in a lovely union, since both people add to the other. Another quality about the Enneagram is that it provides insightful thoughts on likely conflicts between various types. This is the link that goes more indepth about type compatibility. Unfortunately, this part of the field–as in relationship correlations– is not fully developed.

Here I provided a link that delves into the topic more. You may pick different combinations of pairings and the website provides positive and negative issues that might arise in that relationship.

Who or what is the self?

measuring personalities crash course

Oh my golly. I don’t know one person in the entire universe that doesn’t like a good Crash Course. So here it is. I present you *drum roll* with a video on personalities! Ahh. This is one of Hank Green’s lessons on Pyschology. And while he never uses the specific word ‘Enneagram,’ he does speak of different tests one could take. The main point is that everyone is completely different. They are shaped through the biological disposition, as well as their everyday environment. Mr. Green states that “we’re both the creators, and the products, of the situations we surround ourselves with.”

The Self

  1. The organizer of our thoughts, feelings, and actions– essentially, the center of a personality.


What is your type?

The most recent article that I have read is about the Enneagram as a whole. It provides the viewer with services to describe what each type is like. But what use is the Enneagram if you do not even know yourself? What is your type? That is why I am providing you with a quiz on yourself. Yay! I can hear you ‘WAHOOING’ of excitement all the way from the other side of the screen. Wow. How exciting. Check it out…

I so hope you enjoy and start to learn more and more about yourself, as well as your loved ones.


Instinctual Subtypes

Okay, so you might be thinking, Stacy and I are such different people…How in the world are we the same type/number? Well, let me tell you–that is a superb question to ask. Each of the specific nine numbers have three certain subtypes, totaling in twenty-seven variations. These are influenced by the three basic instincts demonstrated during day-to-day life. Continue on below…

SELF PRESERVATION—focused on improving their personal security and physical comfort.

They greatly concern themselves with the basic needs of life. These essentials include money, food, shelter, health, safety, and comfort. An unhealthy self-preservationist might consume themselves with strict dietary requirements, or completely abandon important hygienic routines. However, a self preservationist that is balanced consciously thinks of these necessities but does not overboard on them. They preoccupy themselves with the means of survival.


SOCIAL—focused on interacting with others for the purpose of building their own personal value, their sense of achievements, and their security of “order” or “hierarchy” with others.

These people are more likely to participate in a variety of activities and clubs. And that is what they base their sense of value on. They desire more attention than self-preservationists and also long for honor and appreciation. They would like to be informed on what is occurring around them and contribute to the event. Even though they interact with many people, they usually avoid intimacy.


ONE-ON-ONE—focused on obtaining intense, intimate interactions with others and wish for surroundings that provide them a powerful sense of being alive.

This subtype can also be called sexual. This is because they crave intimacy with others. This ‘sexual charge’ can be given to them through an exciting movie or a fabulous conversation. On accident, they might neglect pressing obligations due to their lust for affection and being in the moment. This could possibly result in a lack of focus, as well.


I recently researched more of this information and found a detailed account that breaks down each of the 27 types… from a Self-Preservation Perfectionist to a Social Peace Keeper, so on and so forth. The website I discovered it on was,, which is also the home of the Ennegram. Check it out! And have a beautiful day!



The Enneagram for Teens

Teenagers. Stop. Read.

First off, no, the Enneagram is not super confusing. Yes, I realize the name of it is quite strange. But, “ennea” means nine in Greek and “gram” means drawing. Simply stated, the Enneagram is a drawing with nine points. However, it is much more than that. It provides you with tools to examine and realize that your strengths are different from your best friends and your other family members. THAT IS A RELIEF! A GOOD THING! A GREAT THING!

 Adolescence (noun)

  1. the transition period between childhood and adulthood.
  2. confusion.

Many people my age, 17, struggle with who they really are. This is directly correlational with Erikson’s Psychosocial Stage of Development, Identity vs. Role Confusion ranging from ages 12 to 20 years. A few examples of this involve the life of Allyson Rae, me! I’ve been in plays, choirs, sports teams, volunteer clubs, and much more randomness. Don’t get me wrong, I created fond memories and enjoyed the groups. However, I continued to alter my activities due to curiosity of fulfillment in doing another. Something new. Something different.

That is why the latest book I read was perfect for me, The Enneagram for Teens: Discover Your Personality Type & Celebrate Your True Self by Elizabeth Wagele. It provided quizzes to discover your own personality type, biographies written by adolescents, and seven goals for adolescents. Psychologist Erik Erikson said, “The goal of adolescence is the establishment of a clear and stable sense of self.” To do so you can follow the goals…

  1. To develop good work habits.
  2. To be mindful of your body.
  3. To be mindful of your social life.
  4. To be mindful of your emotional/spiritual development.
  5. To nurture your intellect, logical thinking, and problem solving.
  6. To develope interests based on your passion and values.
  7. To educate yourself on career choices that incorporate your inate strengths.

So while the Enneagram helps you to unveil your own personality type, it also supports you in determining how your loved ones will act and why. The Golden Rule is “Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.” However, the Enneagram would like to challenge that idea and say “Do unto other as others would would like you to do unto them.” This makes so much sense. I am now enlightened! Not everyone acts the same as you do when they are upset. They might want space, whereas you would like a hug. DON’T GIVE THEM THE HUG. GIVE THEM SPACE! There are so many more scenarios like this, I could go on and on. But, you get the point. We are all different people, who all want to be treated with love. But, that love can be shown in a myriad of ways, each one specific to each individual.

Like I said earlier, I change what I do quite often. I’m not the only one. These years of adolescence contain much change (physical, mental, emotional), curiosity, and chaos for all participants…aka every human. So as Logan Pearsall Smith states, “Don’t laugh at a youth for his affectations; he is only trying on one face after another to find a face of his own.”

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I may have many faults but being wrong ain’t one of them.” -Jimmy Hoffa

  • They strive to improve themselves and they even correct their friends.
  • They are the judge of all things done right and wrong.
  • They prefer things neat, orderly, and clear.
  • They will get mad at themselves if they don’t get good grades… such as Straight A’s.
  • They focus on being a ‘good’ girl or boy.

Famous Perfectionist: Hillary Clinton, Gandhi (idealist), and Natalie Portman.

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“We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don’t know.” -W. H. Auden

  • They are givers, caretakers, and nurturers.
  • They provide lots of love for others, but want to feel appreciated for their work.
  • They want to be liked and are interested in how they look.
  • They hate to be a disappointment.

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“You never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” -Head & Shoulders commercial

  • They like winning a title or recognition.
  • They like dressing well and trying to make a good impression.
  • They want to be seen as successful and popular.
  • Personal drive is a key factor for them.
  • They want to fit in.

Famous Achievers: Tom Cruise, Taylor Swift, Denzel Washington, and Oprah Winfrey.

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“There is something pleasurable in calm remembrance of a past sorrow.” -Cicero

  • They don’t like having limits on them.
  • They want to be unique, to be understood, and to find meaning to life.
  • They long for emotional connections with people.
  • They fantasize and have a good imagination.
  • They are always searching.

Famous Romantics: Johnny Depp, Ariana Grande, Michael Jackson, Angelina Jolie, and ME.

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“You can observe a lot just by watching.” -Yogi Berra

  • They are thinkers that always want to know more.
  • They like to see things clearly.
  • They are generally quiet people who have a tendency to watch what is happening around them.
  • They feel more grown up at younger ages.

Famous Observers: The Buddha, Bill Gates, Daniel Day Lewis, and Mark Zuckerberg.

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“A pessimist is one who feels bad when he feels good for fear he’ll feel worse when he feels better.” -Anonymous

  • They want to be safe and to be told the truth.
  • They are defensive, anxious, and cautious.
  •  They are also friendly, loyal, strong-minded, and honest.
  • They often think of what could go wrong.

Famous Questioners: Anne Hathaway, Jennifer Lawrence, Marilyn Monroe, Julia Roberts, and David Letterman.

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“When choosing between two evils, I always like to take the one I’ve never tried before.” -Mae West

  • They are always doing something. Busy, busy, busy.
  • They always want to be happy and avoid sadness.
  • They desire a fun-loving, exciting life.
  • They are likely to participate in adrenaline-pumping activities.

Famous Adventurers: Miley Cyrus, Tina Fey, Elton John, Channing Tatum, and Robin Williams.

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“Never go to bed mad-stay up and fight.” 

  • They love to be in control.
  • They are natural leaders.
  • They are respectful and independent.
  • They are genuine and in charge.
  • The chief.

Famous Asserters: Nicki Minaj, Demi Lovato, Pablo Picasso, Britney Spears, and MY DAD.

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“I always procrastinate when I get around to it.”

  • They like to keep things as they are.
  • They are fairly easy-going.
  • They get along well with most people and dread conflict.
  • They want everyone be happy.

Famous Peace Seekers: Beyonce, Abraham Lincoln, Bruno Mars, and Rihanna.

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The Mystery of Teenagers

Being a teenager myself, I find it that at this age many of my peers are unaware of who they truly are. They act one certain way around their jock friends and then totally change identities around their choir comrades. I fall ill to this notion as well. So, it excites me to read a book, The Enneagram for Teens – Discover Your Personality Type & Celebrate Your True Self, that genuinely relates to me in my particular stage in life. In the past, I have read enneagram books that I perceive as too grown-up for me, a 16-year old girl. Therefore, this book, written by Elizabeth Wagele, will be my next choice.



What Is The Enneagram?

Welcome to my blog and happy day to you! This blog is about the enneagram which is an influential instrument that introduces self-awareness and a new understanding of people’s emotions to each and every participant. By depicting all nine personality types and their different dynamics, a course has been made clear to a more integrated and satisfying life style. Each type is unique and special in their own way; meaning people think, feel, and act differently due to their own distinctive inner motivations. Obviously. Yet, ‘the enneagram isn’t simply a tool to inform; it is meant to transform’ (Palmer). To do so the enneagram believes there is a particular path to integration. This corridor includes your own spiritual, psychological, and somatic journey . These three ways encourage humans to increase their capacity to receptivity and also loosen their type patterns. Helen Palmer, a well-known teacher of the institute, believes that each person demonstrates the patterns of a certain ‘number.’ Nevertheless, they do not need to be defined as the ‘number.’ A person never wants to become frozen in their type and stick to their customary habits. The reason being is that sometimes humanity just does what they are comfortable with, which occasionally denies healthier, more joyful relationships. Here is a list of the nine distinct personas…

Each 'types' area of awareness.

Each ‘types’ area of awareness.

THE INSTINCTUAL CENTER-BODY. This group’s focal point is to take charge; they feel more comfortable when they are in control themselves.
8-The PROTECTOR-they believe in power & control.
9-The MEDIATOR-they believe in feeling comfortable & settled.
1-The PERFECTIONIST-they believe in being correct.

THE EMOTIONAL CENTER-HEART. This group’s main focus is success and quality relationships with loved ones. They desire to perform up to highest standards set by their surrounding environment and others.
2-The GIVER-they believe in helping others.
3-The ACHIEVER-they believe in success.
4-The ROMANTIC- they believe that they are special. (I exhibit the trends of a 4)

THE INTELLECTUAL CENTER- HEAD. This group concentrates on creating certainty and safety in their surroundings. They perform rational thinking and gathering of information before acting.
5-The OBSERVER-they believe in knowledge.
6-The LOYAL SKEPTIC-they believe in loyalty.
7-The EPICURE-the believe in adventure.

**Within all of the personality types, there are smaller subgroups. Including the self-preservationist, the one-on-one, and the socialite** (I am the one-on-one.)

How each 'type' acts at a party...

How each ‘type’ acts at a party…

How each 'type' acts at a business meeting...

How each ‘type’ acts at a business meeting…

I think that the enneagram allows humanity to genuinely embrace their individuality. So often people, teenagers in general, conform to society because they suppose that others will judge their real identity. Thankfully, the enneagram eases the process of accepting yourself, your loved ones, & other acquaintances. I was enlightened by this new mindset through my mother, who is familiar with the ideals. Actually, we attended a conference addressing the enneagram called Inner Work for Outer Change. It was an 8 hour long day full of meditation, fresh food, and a unique myriad of people. Everyone that I met was lovely, each and every person certainly had their own character. They were distinct individuals. They knew what they liked. They knew who they were and this drew me in. Of course the people had quarks and such, yet they embraced each flaw. Helen Palmer, the main instructor of the event, was also the author of the first book I read on the topic. The Enneagram: Understanding Yourself and the Others In Your Life was the other resource that I used to further my education on the subject.


However, in no means am I complete with my research. I look forward to the upcoming months, especially over winter break, to cuddle up on a cozy couch with a cup of hot cocoa and encompass myself in my next book.